Flirting with Disaster
In some homes, the forgetting of an aniversary or a birthday can be a source of some serious trouble for the absent minded one. The day of my wedding was one of the worst of my adult life, and I wasted no effort to inform the Mrs of this fact; Even then, I was solely interested in the Marriage, and not the wedding. However, it was her wish, so we did as she wished, and part of the quid pro quo is I have no recollection of what day it occurred. Oh, sure, sometimes I dig up an old journal entry and it occurs to me, but for the most part, I have no idea.
Flowers, etc. are also not part of the normal procedure here- I do send them sometimes, or bring them home, but it’s not a habit and not overdone.
No, I’m not the ‘average guy” and if i were married to an ‘average” woman di suppose I’d be in a great deal of trouble because of it.
On the other hand, there are things the Ogwife does that please me no end, and things I do to please her, and those things enrich our lives immeasurably, though they are incredibly simple and cost nothing.
I have a lifelong habit of rising early BUT ONLY ON MY DAY OFF. One of the things I do for the Ogwife that (apparently) endears me to her, is I will get up and make her breakfast. Usually the daughter is up and around,so I make sure she’s eaten, and I eat, and when I know the wife needs to be getting up, I fry up two eggs, over easy, with the whites cooked but the yolks soft, two slices of buttered white toast, four strips of crisp lean bacon, a cup of coffee with a generous splorp of vanilla cream, a bottle of water. THe daughter corrals the dog as I bring in breakfast and the wife enjoys her breakfast in peace, maybe watching some TV or just sitting in bed.
This costs nothing, and yet if anyone has ever brought breakfast to you, you completely understand how wonderful this is.
Try this: buy a dozen roses for $97, and take them home. The next weekend, make her breakfast in bed. See which one gets you more props.
that’s sweet :-)
happy new year
hugs
commandress
I always cook breakfast on the weekends.
If for nothing else, to give Kelly a break considering she does most of the cooking around here.
I’ve also found that inexpensive flowers from the grocerstore are appreciated just as much as the florist variety.
Og,
I think between me and my man, it’s a no brainer who’s the better cook. Him!! *chuckles*
But I pour him his coffees and whiskeys. Does that count? lol.
I can testify to that. It is always the small overtures, the are usually more genuine. Like when I bring home for no reason a candy bar I know she likes. OR getting a blanket I know she likes and giving it to her. The small things.
You are exactly right Og. It’s those little thoughtful things that always mean the most.
Heck, just bringing me a cup of coffee in the morning puts a smile on my face for days!
Sally would like either the roses or the breakfast, but she’d insist on eating at the table because otherwise the cats would get most of the food. (I have offered breakfast in bed before; that’s how I know she’s not interested.)
I’m planning to make ham, bacon, egg and cheese breakfast melts on onion buns for breakfast this Saturday, FWIW.
My husband has bought me some pretty incredible gifts but the one that makes me smile the most is a 2.00 button he bought for me on our first date. It says “Life is too short to drink bad coffee.” :)
That’s the truth :)
I think it’s related to why Valentine’s Day is the worst holiday. Demonstrations of care and affection just don’t count nearly as much (indeed, hardly at all) when they’re perceived by one or both parties as obligatory.
I don’t love my fiancee because it’s our anniversary or some holiday where I’m supposed to. I love her because she’s who she is, and it doesn’t matter what day it happens to be at the moment.
Like Og, I’m lucky in that she agrees with me about this. :)