Organized religion
Don’t make me laugh.
Several people, in coments and in IM and in emails have said to me that they had no trouble wiht faith, but with organized religion.
And I can’t fault them a bit.
Here’s the thing: I have been a Roman Catholic all my life. I am techically excommunicate for personal reasons but I still attend mass. Once you are a catholic (and I mean, truly a catholic) you can as much not be a catholic as you can start being a hog.
Being a Catholic, however, is not a prerequisite for faith in a Creator. In fact, I think that some of catholicism is a specific impediment to faith.
I KNOW a lot of the calvinist beliefs are an impediment to faith. I suspect a great deal of Liberalism is an impedimen to faith.
Whatever the case, at least as far as the Catholic Church is concerned, I have put my fingers into the soil where the bodies are buried, and have felt the bones.
A good spiritual leader can inspire you to closer contact with the creator, and brotherhood and peace with your fellow man and woman. But the acts of brotherhood must come from you. No organization can control what is within you unless you allow it- and allowing it has led to some of the worst nastiness in our history.
Look: Establish your relationship with your Creator yourself. Keep that relationship personal. And keep it to yourself. Don’t think you deserve to enforce your belief on anyone else, because you do not.
No, you should NOT stop going to mass- or to services- in fact, do so more so than before, if you can. But be aware that the building, the minister, the people, are not the source of faith. You don’t need anyone else. You need to be at services so you can maintain that sense of community, and to increase your awareness of a specific thing.
The awareness that there are others just like you.
Others who have found how to use that faith in their lives, and are whole within themselves. People who have arrived at that equilibrium between the teachings of organized groups, and the wisdom of their own hearts. They are there looking for you. They are there to support you. Get to know them and it will help strengthen your own relationship with the Creator. The ones who are very obviously there to show off their new dress, or to be seen in the right pew with the right crowd? the ones that make a big show about their wonderful faith and how great it is? ignore ’em. They suck. they are as much in touch with their creator as.. well, as you could become a hog.

I had to stop going to church as only bad things seemed to keep happening.
The first was my previous marriage, the second being the funeral of my mom.
Yeah, I know that sounds pretty weak, but it works for me.
Dick, you still go to church. Didn’t you once post pictures of rockcrawling?
True enough.
I was about to make a similar point to Dick’s, but damn Og…good counterpoint.
Og,
Like you I’ve been a catholic all my life. I lost faith in the church for a while, but never in God or Christ.
… being personally smacked upside the head by Christ is an experience that does not lend itself to one losing ones faith…
I’ve only recently (late last year) started going back to church, because I’ve finally, after 15 years of seeking and not finding; found a parish where I feel at home.
My wife and I are both in our second marriages; and she hasn’t had her first anulled yet (mine was); so we are not yet married in the eyes of the church.
We don’t intend to stop sleeping with each other, so we are barred from a state of grace; until such time as her marriage can be anulled (about 2 years) and we can be married in the church. That said, our kids are going through the whole process from the start.
So, we go to mass (we have two really great pastors); and don’t take confession or communion; and we feel fine about it. When things are ready with the church, we’ll be ready; and in the mean time, I don’t believe god minds me having sex with my wife.
Oh and I should note, there are still a LOT of fundamental disagreements I have with the “religion” portion of the catholic church, as opposed to the “faith” and “spirit”, and “relationship with god” parts.
These are, in part, the things that drove me from the church in the first place.
But twice over the last few years, two different people, of two different denominations (one a baptist missionary, the other a returned cradle catholic) told me the same thing:
“Don’t let the errors and faults of men, keep you from expressing and fulfilling your relationship with god in the way you choose”.
So I don’t anymore.