The tripod of overindulgence
I have fought for ages with my inability to lose weight, and the surgery has put me on an entirely new track. I have now the tools required to do what I want to do.
In conversation with Pascal yesterday, he asked me how it felt to no longer desire the food that betrayed me for so long.
Boy, did HE not get it. But no sleight to Pascal, he doesn’t understand because he never fought that particular battle, and has no frame of reference. Most people don’t.
So here it is: The Tripod of Overindulgence.
One leg of the tripod is Desire. It’s a big powerful leg.
The next leg is Ability. Less powerful,but Ability can be easily grown.
the third leg is Finance. We must be able to afford what we desire.
In other words, overindulging in anything, be it hookers, snickers bars, tofu, single malt, horseradish, or heroin, depends on three things: Our mental desire to overindulge, our ability to overindulge physically, and our pocketbook.
You may not desire to nail the hooker, but your dick may still work fine, and you might have a big checkbook.
You may desire the hooker, but your dick might not work, despite your large checkbook.
You may desire the hooker and your dick may work fine, but lack the cash to pay the piper.
If you have the cash, the functional dick, and the desire, you can get the hooker.
All my life, I have loved to eat. And I still do. I still desire to eat buckets of food.
All my life, I have been able to- as Beldar put it- consume mass quantities.
All my life, I have had the type of work that has allowed me to eat as I pleased.
By short circuiting that cycle, by limiting my ability to eat, I kick the tripod over.
The desire that I still feel could potentially overcome my inability, make me eat enough that I swell my new, small stomach pouch, and get fat again or fail to lose the weight, but that is a struggle I’m willing to face. As powerful as that desire is, my desire to overcome the issue is stronger. And now I have the tool to make it happen.
Didn’t they make you go through counseling before the surgery? EWK did before his roux-en-y.
I’m so proud of you.You have the desire and the ability to succeed.And money can’t buy that !
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Yes, Broad. We’ve had that discussion. What do you mean? the point of the post is that most people think that losing the ability also deletes the desire.
Brother, truer words were never spoken.
Laugh if you want, but I’ve been kicking around the idea of writing a book about my experience with weight loss. Already got the working title: “How I Did It”. ‘Cuz that’s the first question everyone asks me. 90+ pounds in 1.5 years. Gone from a size 44 waist to 32.
No system. No Atkins, no South Beach, no Weight Watchers. Just counting calories and watching what I put in my piehole like a hawk.
It takes a metric shitload of willpower, that’s for sure, but the interesting thing is that once I got into the groove, the willpower came easier and easier. The more weight I lost, the more I wanted to lose and the less I wanted to eat food that was bad for me…
Here’s wishing you the best of success, although I strongly doubt you’ll need wishes. You’ve got the drive now.