More on mim tomorrow,
and the reasons to use it and not to use it. Today I’m still recovering from getting the Oglet moved 5 hours away and into her dormitory for her first semester at university. I knew this day was coming, but knowing didn’t make it any easier. She is excited and maybe a little apprehensive but we wish her the absolute best, and we hope she works hard and does well. And we will walk by her bedroom with the bed not slept in several times a day and it will suck.
I can imagine my parents were only too damned ready to be shut of me. I know all the things about this that make it good and wonderful and what we all want for our progeny, but it still feels like an involuntary amputation.
I had hoped that it would get easier the second year they go away. It did, a bit, but not enough to counterbalance the Suck.
I have done the “drop the kid at college for the first time” on three occasions and it never gets easier. I still stand and look att he bedrooms and wonder where the years went.
You will always wonder where the years went and if you could have spent more time with them.
On the other hand, if they are to ever be adults, you need to limit time with them as they become more interesting.
Sucks, but that is the way life works.
OTOH over the next few months you will gradually adjust your personal behavior around the house. Along about Christmas (or whatever they’re calling the college break during that time of the year these days), you may well find yourself walking out into the kitchen to turn on the morning coffee (or whatever) while still comfortably au naturel and discover her quietly sitting at the dining room table “to surprise you”.
Ask me how I know. :)
The dog will make a ruckus if she does, but I know what you mean.
Tis life…
My oldest is 16, so we aren’t there yet, but I’m already dreading the day. I offer you and the Oglet the same blessing I pray for my girls.
“May the Lord bless you and keep you. May He cause His face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. May the Lord smile kindly upon you, and bring you peace.”
Thanks, Tony. I need all the help I can get.