I am perfectly happy
living inside my head. I am pretty good company to myaelf. So long as I have research material to be able to answer the questions I ask myself, I’m happy as a clam.
If I had to live like that, I could. On the other hand, I love what Kup called “The Lively art of conversation”. And I love and appreciate the people who can do it.
Timing in a conversation is important. Knowing when to shut up and let the other person talk is critical. Knowing when to talk and how much. Coordinating your replies and not tangentializing. One on one or in small groups, this is one of my favorite things to do, either in a private setting or over a meal. I’m certainly not as good at it as some, but when someone can’t converse well it is irritating to speak with them. This, combined with a certain amount of hearing loss, is why I don’t like to talk on the phone, to anyone, it doesn’t make for conversational flow as face-to-face. Often texting or email is better, for my purposes, if I must do so long distance. Also, there are more than a few conversations I will not have except face-to-face.
When I’m busy I miss this. When I can’t hook up with Partner for more than a week I get antsy, or my African friends, or Werner, or Tam/Brigid/EJ/B/MC/Ed whomever.
So I may be a bit short tempered- or more so than usual- because I’m, in the middle of three or four LARGE projects at work, as well as some garage work as well as the ongoing tree projects. I’m not trying to be pissy, just trying to get shit done and there’s only one of me and so much shit.

Amen, Og. Face-to-face conversation, email, handwritten letters, fine. I hate talking on the phone, & avoid it whenever possible. Even hated it as a teenager. I might have been rare, there.
It’s clear that we are brothers of different mothers.