Do it NOW.
Dad died nearly twenty years ago.
I miss him most days like today, when I wish I had someone with his wisdom to counsel me.
I would give teeth to talk to him on the phone. I would give a year of my life to spend a day with him right now.
Pick up the goddamned phone. Get in your car. Do it now.
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Me and Pop never seemed to click. He liked to work. I liked to loaf. He liked raising animals on the farm. I liked killing them in the forest during hunting season. His favourite son has an arm like a canon. He can do with a football what my rifles do with bullets. Big bro can tear an engine down with his teeth. I paint and read. My big brother is everything that I am not and Pop always seemed to think I just didn’t measure up. I suppose I didn’t. It used to make me really bitter too.
Pop and I are pretty much a write off, but maybe I will call my daughter. I am proud of her and for some stupid reason have never told her so. Fathers are prone to being arseholes in my family I suppose.
I hear ya. I have dinner with him every friday, and we see each other on the weekends. I had to put up with a lot of crud from him while growing up, but all that shit is past now. I know I’ll cherish these times one day. I’m very lucky. He turned 84 the other month. Still works out at the VA each week.
Had dinner with them last nights. Still the first inclination when something goes wrong is to call my daddy…always was and always will be a daddy’s girl. Talk to my parents every day – can’t imagine what it’ll be like without ’em.
I feel very lucky to have both my parents…
Hugs to you Og.
Like Og, I had the best dad in the world. Taught me everything I know. Still knew things I don’t and never will. Sharp as a tack to the day he died, four and a half years ago.
My heart goes out to you all who didn’t have that experience.
I was raised by my grandparents, who were the greatest parents on earth. I really miss them.
I know the feeling; I lost my dad back in November, still hard getting used to him being gone.
That’s exactly why I spend as much time as I do with my dad.
I only wish I would have been smart enough to realize this when my mom when alive.
Need to call Mom this weekend. Thanks for the reminder.
Too much alike at times, Og. My dad also passed away 20 years ago. I was only 12 at the time, so there was so much he was not able to teach me. And I too, would give up some of my time to be able to have some more with him. Instead I do the best I can to be around for my kids. Plus Mom & I are getting together tonight.
Damn fine advice, Og. Damn fine.
Yep. Exactly.
Well said Og. Ironically, I called my dad a couple of hours before you wrote this post. And went out to dinner with him tonight.
Thanks for reminding me how lucky I am to still have my Dad around.
I wasas told 6 years ago Dad had 6 months to live. I started spending every Saturday morning with him like it was his last. A lot of stuff didn’t get done around the house. He went to be with Jesus last year. I’m glad no one said he had 5 years, I might have missed some of those days.
I’ll see him again.
nice. what a sweet post to put up. careful, your humanity is showing.
I miss my dad, too.
Great post, Og.
My Dad turned seventy-eight this week.
His mother is still alive. I suspect he is going to live as long as she has. Grandma is 95.
Does not mean I don’t call or visit often.
Wow. I lost my dad 40 years ago when I was 14. And I still wish I could talk to him. I never really got to know him as an adult, so there’s that large gap thing.
Never take anything for granted. Great post.
You know, it’s ironic that I find this post, shortly after posting one, myself, on NOT wanting to talk on the phone…to anybody.
Humbled.